The Enemy Is Not Your Partner – It’s the Distress Cycle

The enemy is not your partner, it’s the distress cycle. It causes those unsettling doubts about whether your relationship is a forever home. It drives fear that your partner is incapable of loving and accepting you for who you are. It’s your distress cycle with your...

Coming Together While Apart in the Covid Cocoon

The Covid19 pandemic has had a profound affect on our world and how we move through it. Whatever you are feeling right now is deserving of kindness and attention. While we would never have invited this pandemic, paradoxically it is giving many of us the opportunity to...

Chip Away the Fortress of Depression

“It’s not your fault”. These are the words that people with depression don’t hear often enough. Depression is not an emotion but a fortress that traps a person body, mind, and soul. Well meaning friends and loved ones’ efforts to offer solutions are often futile....

Deeper Than Words: Working with Defenses and Learning To Let Go

My client, Betty, was told that she has treatment resistant depression, bipolar 2, and borderline personality traits. She started each new type of therapy or program believing that it was the magic bullet. This would inevitably result in disappointment. Psychiatrist...

THE KINDNESS REVOLUTION

The kindness revolution is about fostering connection in a culture where aversion, disinterest and suspicion are the norm. Taking a risk –  pulling away from our devices, and pushing through the fog of isolation is a first step. As you ride the bus, walk in the...